What I have learned:
You lay out the opportunities. You make space for the impossible to become possible. At the end of all of this, if there is nothing, then there was nothing.
If someone is not attracted to you that does not make you unattractive.
There is little, if anything you can do about the way you look. There is a great deal you can do about the way you feel.
No one gives you orgasms like yourself, nobody.
Great art will always be more permanent than great sex.
Your affection is finite. Choose the recipients wisely. If they do not reciprocate, move on before too much is wasted.